Each year 1 billion cards are exchanged annually throughout the globe, making it the second most celebrated day of the year. It’s history dates back to A.D. 270, into the Middle Ages and the legends of Saint Valentinus; all of whom were martyrs we’re told. The Catholic Church tells a few, one of St. Valentinus while imprisoned for marrying single men in secret after the Emperor banned that from happening. He thought they made the best soldiers over married ones. Falling in love with the young jailers daughter, who would often visit him in confinement. He sent her the first card, making him a hero and romanticist of his time.
Valentines Day began its celebration in the 17th century in February. In exchange of hand made cards that the bearer created themself. By the 18th century, it was quite common for friends to show small tokens of affection in the form of gifts and hand written notes. In the 1840s, Ester A. Howland began selling the first mass produced card in America becoming known as the “Mother of the Valentine”. They were adorned with lace, ribbon and colorful pictures. According to the Greeting Card Association, 85 percent of purchasers are women.
I remember as a child looking forward to writing out cards, a box purchased by my mother, so we could exchange them in class. It was exciting to see how many we could collect. As we got older some girls got more cards than others, questioning whether the class should continue this tradition. While the practice still remains, each child are all given the same amount so nobody feels left out.
Even though Valentines Day is a romantic time to celebrate and remember the one that you love, for many that chance never happens. I know for myself I have never been given a bouquet of flowers, chocolates or a card on that day from even the one I was dating and in a relationship with. It is a time many may feel sad or depressed if you are alone. A time where you feel envious of others because they always seem to get pampered and you are always feeling left out. It’s not uncommon for many to feel that way leaving suicide at a high, just like at Christmas.
So how do we cope with the objection of Valentines Day! You buy yourself a beautiful bouquet of flowers, a nice box of chocolates and take a glorious warm bath. You begin to think of all the parts of yourself that are wonderful. You tell yourself how great they are, and you begin to rub lotion on them. You add perfume, do up your hair and dress in clothes that make you shine. You host a gathering of other single friends who are in the same boat.
You remind yourselves that even though you are alone … you are never lonely! You have family, friends and perhaps a child or a small pet that adore you. You are worth waiting for, that special someone who will treat you with love, respect and more. You celebrate your successes and you make a vision board. Applying all those pictures and words that resonate with you, while reminding yourself where you have been, where you are going and what needs focussing on. You exchange valentines cards, that remind your friends the positive attributes you admire in each one.
For those that are in love and a relationship you can apply the same principles. Having a candlelit dinner, nice music and candles. A warm long bath with bubbles, a massage for two and enjoying the comfort of each other. You remind them why you are here, giving the assurance of why your love will last and without them you may not be where you are now. You can also make a vision board of love for each other, including your dreams and future goals. You create a board designed by two hearts that have endured time. A continuing of where your love will grow, and make that commitment once again to honoring each other. A practice that should be shown on a regular basis.